Follow up your sigh of relief experience from our online programs, with putting your budding new confidence into practice in the fresh air, and open space of the farm.
This is where you Work outside of your brain, skillfully engaging activities that are not about your heads!
Our experiential activities support the leading research on the power of thinking outside of your brain. Expanding your kinesthetic knowledge, through feelings, movement of our body, the physical space of the farm and working with other people.
Yeah, we use horses to do this part of the program, but we make it really safe, easy and fun!
You don’t actually get on a horse; it’s an all boots on the ground experience!
While you tend to default to overthinking and second guessing decisions, horses are all about the moment!
They have survived 55 million years by honing the ability to make split second decisions based on what they feel, and sense from their surroundings. Unlike humans who tend to overthink, and second guess everything!
- Second guess when they sense a predator; they run,
- Excuse the disrespect of a herd member, they move them along
- Brood over a conflict, they go back to grazing.
- Tolerate your lack of leadership; they’ll just call the shots if you can’t keep them safe.
Horses are a non-verbal pray animal
Basically us humans, we just talk too much.
Our neocortex developed, about 10 million years ago allowing us to acquire language, and expanded thinking and analysis, but it also created an inner voice, our ego, that figured it was now in charge.
But that inner voice started to dismiss the sensory environmental messages about safety, protection, security; you know senses that keep you safe!
All that constant inner chatter soon becomes the voice of the inner critic.
As a nonverbal prey animal horses developed a silent method of communicating with their herd that wouldn’t give away their location to a predator. So the vibrational frequency caused by air movement from an ear twitch, shoulder raise, tail flip or nostril flare are motions that alert and manage a herd of horses to both danger and the governance of the herd.
Our emotions and our emotional state are another vibrational frequency that horses can read, it’s not magic, and it’s just energy.
You have paid a large price for favouring logic and analytical thinking, as it’s dulled your ability to feel and use emotions as critical data you need to thrive.
The suppression of this powerful evolutionary force, your ability to feel and express emotions as an outlet of joy, and release of pain, grief, and sadness, is diminishing your life experience, as you choke its voice, pour another glass of wine, and paint your face with a smile.
You hear a song on the radio that reminds you of your sister, daughter, mother or father, who has died, and the tears start to well up, but instead of enjoying the moment of connection and memories of warm times, you change the channel and choke down your tears instead.
Wouldn’t you like to be able to keep and hold those warm memories as earned lived experiences instead of having to sensor and omit them?
In death and divorce those memories can be too painful to hold, but they are your connection back to your loved one and to the loving moments you shared.
Even if memories of an ex only cause bile to rise, wouldn’t you rather be able to have them without the need to pop an antacid?
Horses are the teachers
Horses become teachers with their ability to detect and mirror back to us our own emotional state. Emotions are just energy in motion so they’re a natural force a horse can recognize and respond too because they hold a familiar vibrational frequency.
Basically horses can feel your fear, sadness, loneliness and joy.
We offer both group and one on one in person programs on the farm.
On the farm group programs are trauma informed, hands on, learn by doing part of the curriculum where the learning becomes active. This is where the knowledge of the online content gets put into practice.
Theory is great, and it’s needed to give a solid base of knowledge, but we all learn differently, and being able learn the concepts through action, movement and feedback is like being able to eat and savour the ice cream cone instead of someone describing it to you.
It’s the best way to take a concept and actually integrate in to your life, by deepening your kinesthetic and sensory knowledge. (That’s just means you learn how to get out of your head and into your body).
A la Cart programs
(For those who have not taken or do not need the online course)
This program is geared for those who either want to continue to practice the skills already learned or just want a mind-full way to reduce anxious and worrying states of mind.
Mindful grooming with a horse ($60)
A 45 minute mindful grooming session in our heritage barn with one of our horse teachers.
We will instruct you on safety around horses, and provide a grooming kit to work with. It’s a great way to destress, practice deep breathing, release all the demanding and circling thoughts that swirl around in our heads.
We’ll teach you how the horse becomes your barometer as to how mindful you are able to remain during your session, so you can gently bring yourself back to focus when it inevitable wanders back to the stresses of life.
Think of it as an active meditation session, where you are practicing staying on task and deepening your relationship with both your horse partner and yourself.
Foundations of Grief on the Farm
This is the interactive section of the program, which follows the online series.
This is a two day on the farm experience, typically 9:30 – 3:00 each day.
We have created experiential tasks for the most common blocks and disruptions to the grieving process.
It’s how to see what you’re blind too, how to feel what you can’t touch, how to listen to what you can’t hear and how to speak what you can’t say.
- Hearing and trusting your inner voice
- Staying on a mindful task
- Accepting, asking or declining support
- Making decisions when your mind is swirling
- The heart and mind, they can be friends
- How do the pieces fit now?
- Self Compassion, (yeah, it’s hard, but it’s also the key)
Working with our horses, you’ll also learn:
- To stay on your mindful task
- To silence the critical inner voice
- To use your body as a grounding tool
- To use your heart space to open and maintain a connection with your loved one, and your prior self.
Program dates are announced through my email list, so sign up at the bottom of the page…
A Writers Workshop
Show not Tell for Writers and Producers.
Writing emotions for characters that turn your readers into fans.
This is a non-grief program.
Expressing emotional range in your characters can be a challenging task as a writer, but also the most rewarding
This program combines our horses, and your writing to deepen your kinesthetic (body) senses and emotional language, so you can better show not tell your readers what your characters are feeling and expressing.
Your job as a writer is to articulate your character’s emotions in a way that will engage your readers, and that is accomplished by writing (showing the feelings) instead of telling your reader what the character is feeling.
The characters emotional state should trigger the readers own emotional memories, creating connection and empathy that draws them deeper into the story.
This program teaches you how to kinaesthetically connect with emotions in your body, so you can create an authentic voice to the emotional experience of your characters, enabling you to write using your senses instead of your head.
When your words are able to create an intuitive or visceral connection between your story and the reader, the experience for the reader now becomes personal as opposed to generic.
In this program you will explore and expand your emotional vocabulary, as well as learn how to feel into those emotions instead of thinking your way through them.
Space is limited so sign up on our mailing list at the bottom of the page…
A Novel Life; what’s your next chapter(s)?
This is not a grief specific program
This program is offered as either a group or an individual experience.
Your life is your own novel, but have you ever thought about writing your next chapter(s) from the perspective of how you want to feel from what you create instead of just the goals or logistics themselves?
Setting goals is the best known process for mapping out next steps in life, but what has always worked better for me was to map it out from how I wanted to feel instead of just the ideas.
Sinking into the emotions and creating a story from how you want to feel, drops you into a space that enables you to see clearer and further than mere goals can give you. It also eliminates the biting inner mind chatter that sneaks up and tries to sabotage your dreams.
That inner voice that tries to tell you you’re an idiot for thinking any of it could be possible, because you don’t have enough money, you don’t have the right resume, you’ve gained too much weight, you’re not pretty or handsome enough, you’re too old, you’re too young, it’s too late, it’s too soon it’s too far, or it’s too scary.
Creating from feeling your way skips the mental blowback because it’s shaping an experience through a story instead of a plan.
So, feel…. wealthy, safe, loved, protected, worthy, included, trusting, playful, powerful, successful, accomplished, popular, impressive, clever, hip, fashionable, witty, glamourous, included, cool, famous, free, swashbuckling, motherly, nurturing, bold, adored, adorable, or alive.
The next chapter(s) is yours to write.
What to do next?
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